Hey there, tired momma
You probably can’t remember the last time you had a good night’s sleep, whether it’s because you were up through the night with your newborn, or you’ve got so much on your mental to-do list that you can’t fall asleep even when it’s FINALLY time to crawl into bed. Dragging yourself through each day is not how you imagined this would be. You want to actual enjoy the life you have created.
It doesn’t have to be this way…
I help exhausted moms get the sleep they need so they can take back control of their lives. Their nights of interrupted sleep leave them dragging through each day feeling fatigued, foggy, and irritable. I provide a holistic solution that helps them sleep deeply, wake rested, and quickly reclaim their mental clarity and emotional balance so they can again be the mothers, partners, and women they wish to be.
In the span of less than three years, I had met and married my husband and our three children were born. It was a profound blessing to now have these four beautiful souls in my life, to be surrounded by their energy, activity, and love. It should have been a very happy time, but in truth I was completely overwhelmed and EXHAUSTED.
I had spent most of my adult life flying solo — I was used to a quiet life. My time had always been my own. It was a difficult transition to the demands of motherhood, giving all I had to taking care of my family and yet trying to hold on to some semblance of who I had been. I didn’t know how to live this life. I was searching for strength, grace, and humor, but instead I was watching myself drown.
By the end of 2017, when our twins were eight months old, I hadn’t slept through the night in over a year, many days only getting three or four hours of sleep total. To say I was tired is an understatement. I was not only physically and mentally exhausted, making it hard to stay organized and do the simple tasks of the day, but my emotions were completely out of control and it was hurting my relationships with my husband and my kids.
My life was consumed by household chores and caring for little ones — important work, but there were other parts of me that were calling for attention. It was hard to keep up with any self-care practices I used to have, or to even find a quiet moment to myself to seek some sanity. I began to wonder if I would completely lose it. I was very tempted to run away (my usual answer to challenges in the past).
Finding my way through
I was not going to leave — I loved what I had! — but it was not ok for things to continue as they were. I was determined to figure out how to reclaim control over myself and my life.
I began searching out the support I needed: Family and friends to watch the kids so I could get out of the house for a while. A therapist to help me process the well of conflicted emotions, self-judgements, and uncertainties. Most importantly, learning how to give my body and mind the deep rest it needed to feel functional again (whether I slept through the night or not). I staked a claim on time to care for myself so that I would be able to show up for my family the way that I wanted.
Sleeping better and with a new rhythm established in my daily routine, I began to notice important shifts in my mood and overall well being. I was well-rested and full of energy, happy to take on the tasks of the day instead of feeling dragged down by them. I felt more emotionally balanced, better able to respond instead of react; my problem-solving and creativity flowed more easily; and I had more patience and humor with my husband and kids. I could finally feel the beauty of the blessings in my life.
The most important lesson I had learned was how crucial good sleep and true, soul-nourishing rest were to my well being as a mother. As I watched other mothers around me struggling with exhaustion and overwhelm, I knew I wanted to help them find a way clear, too.
Where I am now
Today, I have combined my past experience of teaching mindfulness and self care, with my understanding of the challenges that mothers face, to help women who are struggling as I was to turn exhausted and chaotic into balanced and peaceful. The work of raising your children is too important to not be able to give it your best. And you are too important to not have your health, well being, and sanity at the end of the day.
I am committed to creating a new generation of mother — the well-rested mother. She has left behind exhaustion and living at her limit by committing to self-care practices that refresh and recharge her, so that even when life is challenging or depleting, she has the reserves and resiliency to be her best self — wise, compassionate, strong, and free.
If you are ready to make this change for yourself, it will be my honor to guide and support you through.